Q: My 21-year-old nephew (my sister's son) died instantly in a car accident on Sept. 3. About 2 weeks ago, I had a dream that he appeared to my 21-year-old daughter, myself and my sister. In my dream, I had walked into a wood-planked room and found him speaking to my daughter. I was afraid he would disappear but he stayed when he saw me. He spoke very clearly to me. I asked him if he was OK. He said he was. I asked him a lot of questions and he answered them. My second question was if he was with Timothy, his baby brother who had died right after birth. He said he was. He clearly wanted me to let everyone know he was OK. I noticed he had cover-up makeup around the outside of his eye. At his wake, he had a closed casket because of the damage to his face. I asked if he could stay until I could bring his mom to see him. He calmly said yes. I stepped outside of the room and called my sister on a cell phone. She came over immediately and went into the room. I left them alone and that was the end of the dream. Could this really be him? Or, do we imagine these things to reassure ourselves that our loved ones are OK?
DS, Freehold Township
A: Communicating with those who have passed on can be the reassurance we so desperately need to heal our psyches. Dreams literally act as a transmitter of information from the beyond. Electrical impulses in the brain work overtime in the dream state. One may not consciously be thinking about the deceased on a daily basis but the trauma is always there. When contacting the dead in real life as I often do, there's always that question. Did I actually talk to the loved one who passed over or was it my imagination? I always go with my gut. I suggest you do the same. If it feels real, it is. I believe your nephew came to you, your daughter and sister. Interestingly, your daughter is 21 … the same age as your nephew was when he died. You might have underlying anxiety about her safety. Keeping her by your side in the dream gives you a feeling of security. You asked your nephew about his brother Timothy, and he confirmed that he was OK. The makeup was your idea. You wanted to cover his injuries, so your sister would be at ease seeing her son. You are the messenger of good news and emotional relief for your sister. Smile and be happy that you made this wonderful connection for your sister.
Q: I have been divorced for a few months. I keep having dreams that my husband and I reconcile and get back together. There are a lot of obstacles between us at the moment. We barely even talk, but given the chance, I would be with him again in a heartbeat. Is this my wishful thinking? Or, is this a glimpse into our future together?
A: After any breakup, there is a need to dream of the relationship. Your deeper mind is delving into memories, feelings and loss. Divorce is literally a feeling of being in a war zone. Emotional scars need to heal. It sounds as if you also are having a wish-fulfillment dream. You may have not been the one to call it quits. You feel empty and long for this relationship, although your divorce papers say the marriage is over. For you it's not over. I don't feel it's a glimpse into the future. More likely, it means that you want to reconcile. This dream is a common theme among men and women who can't deal with divorce. Separation anxiety is prevalent in our sleeping hours. Everything we want and wish for surfaces sooner or later, and fortunately dreams act as a coping mechanism for our injured ego.
Psychically I feel you will meet someone else. Although you always will be connected to your ex emotionally, the pain and disturbance in your dreams will disappear when a new love arrives.
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